The “jerk off instruction” (JOI) fetish is, like any other sexual proclivity, inspired by a combination of factors. The kink boils down to a person with a penis “having sex with someone who is very focused on your pleasure.” The performer onscreen can be a little condescending with the viewer or they’re loving and adoring, but the key, regardless of tone, is that they’re very vocal about what typically happens when one watches porn. You may find by watching some of the videos that your “kink” is POV porn, or you may discover that you like a partner who’s more dominant or submissive. Pay attention to the way performers are speaking to you, and ask yourself what you find most exciting. The r/joi community is actually one of the more emotionally intelligent groups of porn-sharing redditors because their kink has so much to do with tone of voice. By paying attention to what is most exciting to you in these videos, you might discover you like a partner who’s more dominant or submissive, or it could be your first foray into POV porn. Kinbaku is the Japanese art of tying women up using intricate rope patterns, and it’s estimated that the practice first gained popularity in the 1600s. Unlike BDSM pornography involving bondage, kinbaku porn tends to focus on the act of tying someone up - whereas many BDSM videos begin with a woman already restrained.
